Parents who lose a child at war react in all different ways.
Frank Kestler has doubled down on patriotism. He's the town dentist on the tiny island.
"The town just absolutely embraced us, hugged us, I can't say enough it's just one big family," he said.
Some of those flags, installed on utility poles and therein lies the controversy.
LIPA claims it's just abiding by a state law. And the total charge is only about $23, but town leaders say it's a sign of disrespect for a local hero.
"To make just a patriotic gesture of putting up a flag to be something you have to pay the state for or pay LIPA for, just seems fundamentally not right," says Loriz.
LIPA says it's prohibited from giving away space on its poles, the law apparently intended for when other companies want to hang wire for cable TV or telephone, but doesn't distinguish between a wire, and a flag.
Kestler says it doesn't really bother him, he's actually glad this flag flap has raised awareness about his stepson's sacrifice.
"It's more publicity for our soldiers who are putting their lives on the line every day," he adds.
In a statement LIPA Chief Operating Officer says he's willing to pay for the fee that is due to his company because of the state rule.